ppl that hate bugs to the point of wanting to hurt them are the biggest cowards of all just take your L and admit ur afraid of a tiny brittle shell full of goo w a few legs and leave them alone
Try “Any pet is a lot of responsibility. A puppy would have to be fed, walked, and taken outside to use the bathroom several times a day and taken for regular check-ups and vaccinations at the vet. You can’t do all of that by yourself, and I/we don’t have the time or money either.”
When your teenager says “Why can’t I come home at 2:00 this Saturday?”
Instead of defaulting to “My house, my rules!”
Try “The time you come home is a matter of respect and consideration. I/We will not only be concerned for your safety, but we would either be disturbed in the middle of the night when you arrive or forced to stay up for several extra hours waiting.”
When your child says “Why am I not allowed to do this thing?”
Instead of defaulting to “My house, my rules!”
Try actually communicating a legitimate reason, because children pick up on subtlety and on context and on the unspoken messages, and it’s better to teach children lessons like “You should think really hard before taking on new responsibilities” and “It’s important to show consideration for the needs of the people with whom you share a living space” than lessons like “It’s okay for people to demand your absolute obedience so long as you’re dependent on them for survival.”
TRUTH
Also worth knowing: training your child to accept arbitrary ‘reasons’ for obedience like ‘because I said so’ and ‘my house my rules’ etc trains them to be more susceptible to peer pressure because in their mind, when someone who is at all an authority (older than them, bigger than them, more impressive than them, more confident than them) demands something, they should accept it and not think about it critically.
Let them ask why, and give them a real reason. If not, don’t be surprised when they fall for lots of bullshit when they are older. You’re the one that made them believe ‘BECAUSE’ was reason enough.
^^^ This.
My mother never pulled the ‘my house my rules’ shit with me. She always explained why I wasn’t allowed to do something.
So instead of resenting her for not letting me do things I learned why certain activities were bad or not something I should be doing at that age.
If you explain something to a kid or teenager they’re more likely to understand why and more likely to be receptive to your criticism.
i’ll never understand why we don’t call countries the names they actually call themselves
like, i know this is a weeaboo-sounding example, but let’s start with Japan. They call themselves Nippon or Nihon depending on… i guess, the speaker’s accent??? or their level of formality while speaking??? I dunno. But we still called them Zipangu for like a few hundred years. And now we call them Japan.
All because Marco Polo asked someone in China about that island over there and they said “oh that’s Cipangu” and Marco Polo was like “Oh, Zipangu, cool.” And then he went back to Italy and said “Y’ALL THERE’S THIS DOPE-ASS ISLAND CALLED ZIPANGU” and people back in Italy were like “An island called Giappone? Dope.”
And this pattern of people mishearing people kept repeating until we got to “Japan.”
And we still call them Japan even though we know better. Because fuck you, Marco Polo asked the wrong person 500 years ago and misheard them and we’re sticking to that, I guess.
that was literally just the world’s worst game of telephone
heres an unpopular dog opinion that a lot of animal lovers need to hear because im sick and tired of people misrepresenting these dogs:
Bullies are naturally reactive and have a higher chance of that becoming aggression. NO you should not leave them alone with your children. NO you should not let it play with your bunny. NO you should not put your face all up in its mouth because The Dodo facebook said its fine
That doesnt mean theyre bad dogs at all. i own a BBM and theyre great, just not in the hands of a “see no evil of my baby to avoid the stigma so ill pretend its issues dont exist" furmom. These dogs are very powerful (how you choose to help them channel that- negatively or positively, can result in if it will manifest as aggression) They have a limit and if you refuse to acknowledge what theyre capable of because you just want to desperately see people hate them less (its understandable) then you could provoke it, and by extension making a bad name for the breed in believing some ideal fantasy that these dogs are fully harmless gentle lumps capable of no wrong. All dogs are capable of biting and being aggressive and some breeds are more likely to behave aggressively due to mishandling and misunderstandings THISIS A FACT
For instance, huskies, border collies, hounds: high prey drive, instinctually want to chase and capture/kill etc. BBMS, pitbulls, kangals, GSDs, rottweilers, akitas, and cane corsos: known to be human aggressive (often because people breed aggressive lines and dont understand its high chance of heritability- how they percieve environments and stimuli and how theyre naturally inclined to react). how a dog is raised does play a part but to deny that certain breeds have a natural disposition to behave a certain way is foolish and ignorant. Theyre more likely to act out against people because they are guardian breeds, and thats what they do
Even hyperactivity when theyre in an excited state can sometimes result in bites (I have been bit HARD several times by both Sadie - BBM- and Samson - rottweiler when playing and they realized what they did immedietely afterward) both of these dogs have the most intense bite pressure of any other breed- a whopping 300 pounds. thats more than enough to break an arm off like a toothpick . If you cannot accept this or understand this is what theyre capable of in play and on accident, then you probably should reconsider owning one.
they need healthy and responsible outlets for their energy and high drive tendencies so they can live healthy happy lives
Learn about breed specifics, learn to read body language, educate people before somebody considers adopting a BBM and how they should truly be fully prepared for their new dog and to evaluate if theyre prepared for it bully quirks and all
